Tag: Self Development

Invited to write feature essay on Creativity, Artists & Mental Health

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Ian Thomas, Compensation, 2013 Slab-built, molded earthenware, slip, electric fired, paint, image transfer, charcoal, 18” x 8” x 8” thread, glue 96” x 84” x 48

 

Mid-Winter, I was commissioned to write the Feature Catalog Essay for The Society for Contemporary Crafts‘ upcoming exhibition,“Mindful: Exploring Mental Health Through Art.”

This will be a unique exhibition offering powerful artistic responses on the role creativity plays in self-expression and mental health, as well as looking at the links between artistic tendencies, attempts to live creatively, and mental dis-ease. 

Looking forward to reflecting and writing on this in the upcoming months….

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Two pieces on Dysfunctional Families and the work of Dr. Charles Whitfield

“Helpful, good books have been written over the last few decades about dysfunctional families and the wounding that is often carried from childhood into adulthood. Many have incorporated the belief that children in such families adopt particular roles which help them to manage and ease the pain.

Dysfunctional families are affected by mental illness, trauma from tragedy, or simply by being headed by individuals with very poor parenting skills. There is no pretty way around that statement and plenty of authors have courageously and professionally touched the subject, as a simple Internet or library search will show….”

 

View this article where it was originally published on PsychCentral

Lisa A. Miles c 2013

 

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“Charles L. Whitfield’s 1987 book Healing the Child Within is aimed at adult children of dysfunctional families. The ideas he presented synced up with the 12-step recovery movements for families afflicted by alcohol and addiction (Al-Anon, Nar-Anon). It made perfect sense that the pain of those with alcoholic parents was similar to that of individuals in families whose parents were dysfunctional even if not abusing substances….”

 

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Lisa A. Miles c 2013

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Teaching Mental Health in Junior High

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“Some children might start identifying what they are going through at home with an ill parent; others could begin to formulate an entirely new way of being when it comes to the stress and tension they’ll meet with throughout life. Many lives could be potentially changed if young people from junior high on began to learn signs and symptoms….”

 

Lisa A. Miles c 2013

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Mental Health in the Form of a Home

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Lisa A. Miles c 2013   www.lisamilesviolin.com
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There was an interesting headline recently in the New York Times asking, “Can a House Confer Bliss?”

Despite its locale in the Real Estate section, I figured this article just had to delve into a wellness topic that was close to my own heart — finding serenity in a home.

The subhead, “Homeownership gets a knock from some experts in well-being,” though, made me sigh. Other people out there must get it, I had originally thought. Apparently not.

As the 20-year owner of an old house on a hill overlooking cityscape and rolling river valley, I have long known that a home can be a real harbor for the soul.
Was I just lucky, or crazy, or for some reason especially acclimated to this sensation that I love my house and even the ground it sits on? (Probably a little of all.) I do believe, though, that if it was a fairly good enough choice in the first place, where we put down roots can really become us.

I needed only scan the article a bit to see dismaying anecdotes, such as people unhappy with having to maintain a house rather than just clean an apartment. Many disliked the steep initial costs associated with (some) real estate purchases.

Readership was centered on New Yorkers, who ironically plunk down their earnings monthly on rents equivalent to full house down payments in other parts of the country. This article took the angle that a house, nevertheless, is just a big thing, and some people like experiences better than things. I am one of them. (My husband, on the other hand, likes things, and fills some rooms of our home accordingly.)

A house is much more than a thing. I will always steer people toward finding a place to truly call one’s own.

Nothing makes more sense financially. Equity aside, a house can confer bliss.

It is where loved friends and family are perhaps invited in for joyful parties; it is that place of peace, mainly, which recharges our batteries and can provide contentment and good feeling to rival that of therapy or marriage or job success. Well-matched, or at least adjusted to fit the style of personalities living in it, a house is a place of retreat from the outer world. (Who doesn’t occasionally need that?)

Finding or “making” one’s home is a gratification not unlike finding a career. It shelters and nourishes, and is an extension of the self. Indeed, where we plant ourselves should be a balm in our life.

The rooms of our old place provide me comfort and happiness, quite simply. Outside, sitting on a patch of the sloped ground, my eye adjusts to points far past while under a canopy of trees, and stillness fills me. It is literally my one favorite place in all of the world, this backyard. It is our own.

There I find the drug of satisfaction and peace, amid a life that has known a little frenzy.

 

Image:  Chip & Jesse (Vojta)

This piece was originally published on PsychCentral

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Going After Goals Yet Letting Go of Outcomes

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A recent article of Christine Lattimer of the UK inspired me to think on Goals/ Outcomes further–

Good advice in article, esp. ‘Going After a Goal’ but being able to “Let Go of the Outcome” at same time~ How true in business, career and interpersonally!  (This adage should be in all such, as well as mental health and employee EAP program, “manuals”…and indeed is found in some).

This is an important truth in life, especially when disappointments of any kind get us down.  We must aim high but  prepare ourselves mentally to feel satisfied when high outcomes are not in the cards for us.  Similarly, we must define success as personal and professional accomplishment regardless of whether great money, “following”/fame, and traditional definitions of “success” in personal and relationship happiness occurs.  

Define what you aim for.  Define success for yourself.   Though making great money (or at least a decent living) is always desirable,  more gratifying for sure is to do good work, to make a difference, to contribute, to create.  

Ask yourself–What have you actually done?  

What would you like to do?  Get to it.  Then the outcomes might even surprise you.

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Zen & Martial Arts Life-Lessons on the Path Around Anger

 

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Awareness of when anger and conflict are imminent, and then using best practices to completely deflect or even transform it is one of many core truths in Zen and martial arts.

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Lisa A. Miles c 2013

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Presence: Authentic Sense of Self

 

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Artists being able to collaborate with psychologists makes for a unique experience.

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Lisa A. Miles c 2013

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Japanese Self-Reflection: Naikan

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Naikan parses life purely to its simple truth, universal and timeless.

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Lisa A. Miles c 2013

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Self-Development Workshop at BYS Yoga this summer

Sunday July 21, 2013  11 a.m.- 1p.m.

Personal Power:  The Self-Designed Life

A colorful and motivational look at the keys we each hold to pursue a life that most speaks to us in this world.

This hands-on, highly engaging workshop will give participants a chance to reflect on their individual “sense of self.” It will be creative process-driven and utilize stimulating discussion, reflection, tactile and sensory facets, and some minor movement. Bring a a yoga mat and journal, and be prepared to leave empowered and inspired to leverage assets within, and to think on transforming personal and professional challenges, with both inspiration but also effective tools.

 
Led by Pittsburgh musician, writer and self-development coach Lisa Miles, who has been uniquely blending her expertise in Personal/ Professional Development and the Creative Arts ever since leaving the traditional world of teaching in the 1980s.
 
See more on Lisa’s advising, and writing for www.psychcentral.com on the BYS Yoga Community Wellness page, as well as her in-depth coaching profile at www.liquic.com.  
 
$20 in advance
$25 at the door

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Self Development as Balm

Lisa A. Miles c 2013   www.lisamilesviolin.com
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Take the toughest challenges you have to tackle at work, at home or with extended family and friends–

Bosses who seem clueless to what your job requires, colleagues who can’t relate to you (or you they), the stress of deadlines and dissatisfaction of being in a job you are not even sure you belong in.  Family members who throw plans into disarray, disregard you and have you questioning your commitment (as well as your sanity).

Perhaps adult siblings who ask for money or come to you for advice, only for you to soon find yourself involved in maddening family triangles, or aunts and uncles who pull you into long-entrenched but silly feuds.  Then of course there are friends who you would like to shake to knock some sense or self-reflection into….  Get the picture?

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